loveandchunkybits asked:

Is Marriage Only for White People: Under fourth tidbit, Did you mean black women instead of men? I agree mostly with your assessment, esp the last question. IMO scholars find that what happens to black people tends to scale up to the masses, which is why its of interest. And it does make me feel self-conscious, however, I do think the current model of marriage can be exploitive for women and would be open to exploring different models. Many Europeans dont do marriage either. Was that addressed?

Answer:

Thank you for your comment girl. I always Love your questions.  Yes. I meant women and I changed that. Thank you. The current model of marriage is highly exploitative of women because it expects them to deal with racism and sexism @ work then come home and ostensibly deal with patriarchy. This isn’t to say that there aren’t enlightened black men with regards to gender, my dad is one and I have dated a few. But it means that socially, they are not encouraged to be this way. Honestly, I  also need to write a post about the middle class Black women that I know who Love their boos but do not want to get married because they do not want to lose themselves and they do not want to start getting treated like a maid. #Ummhmm.

He does not do Europe. In fact, on the reasons why I got really interested in modern marriage patterns is an article from the NYT from summer 2008 on the drop in fertility rates in Europe. Fascinating stuff, no?

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/29/magazine/29Birth-t.html?pagewanted=all